Comments on: Zimbabwean women in the Diaspora – defend yourselves! http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/zimbabwean-women-in-the-diaspora-defend-yourselves/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=zimbabwean-women-in-the-diaspora-defend-yourselves Kubatana.net speaks out from Zimbabwe Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:53:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Christine http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/zimbabwean-women-in-the-diaspora-defend-yourselves/#comment-203667 Christine Tue, 07 Jun 2011 13:11:32 +0000 http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/?p=6070#comment-203667 I have a few questions for the writer, firstly he mentions that the law in the Diaspora “always protects women” and put this across as a bad thing, does he actually believe that all laws should oppress women? Also he equated women being married to having a noose around their neck, need I say more? He said men in the Diaspora are now “secretly building their empire back home” because their wives can now provide for themselves. Shouldn’t a man be building for the future all the time or does that only happen when he feels his wife is not respecting him?
Just as there are women in the Diaspora who have their husbands deported, there are also men whose wives work hard and bring them here only to have them leave their families for another woman.
I am a single woman living in the Diaspora and I feel I will remain single for a long time because I do not want to marry a person who does to understand or appreciate our culture. That should mean I will be marrying a Zimbabwean man. Unfortunately most of our men have the same mentality as Mr. Tapfumaneyi and do not understand the culture . In Zimbabwe a man is respected as the head of the house and makes final decisions because in is the main provider. In the Diaspora the men do not want to work or they expect you to work as hard as they do, look after the children and still respect a man who is not proving himself a man. What I would suggest to a man whose wife came to the Diaspora first is if you are a hardworking, faithful and trustworthy man then there will be no reason for your wife to deport you. Do not take the parts of Zimbabwean culture that suit you and leave the rest. If you want your wife to have no independence and not have “enhanced standing” like out grandfathers did then you have to be prepared to go out and earn a living while she stays at home and makes house. Unfortunately in the Diaspora you cannot have your cake and eat it. If you want cake you have to go out and work for it.

]]> By: Dananai http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/zimbabwean-women-in-the-diaspora-defend-yourselves/#comment-203571 Dananai Fri, 03 Jun 2011 18:30:59 +0000 http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/?p=6070#comment-203571 First of all, in zimbabwean culture, men are the providers and protectors, they are the financial head of the home. this position of responsibility makes them the majority decision maker where finances are concerned. The first mistake is in sending your wife out to go and be the bread winner. If she is making the money and supporting you and your kids then yes she should take priority in making the decisions for (mhuri) the family.

If they can no longer provide and send their wives out into the wild wild west not only do they relinquish that authority they had as men, they emasculate THEMSELVES and have noone to blame other than themselves!

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