Comments on: Marriage in the 21st century is not what it used to be http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/marriage-in-the-21st-century-is-not-what-it-used-to-be/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=marriage-in-the-21st-century-is-not-what-it-used-to-be Kubatana.net speaks out from Zimbabwe Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:53:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5 By: Chigova Godfrey http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/marriage-in-the-21st-century-is-not-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-204684 Chigova Godfrey Wed, 29 Jun 2011 12:59:34 +0000 http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/?p=6230#comment-204684 Well thanks for the saying!Woman only need someone to socialise with rather than to live because of today’s life that has enabled them to seek wealthy for themselves as compared to the last days.

]]> By: Upenyu http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/marriage-in-the-21st-century-is-not-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-204417 Upenyu Thu, 23 Jun 2011 09:13:36 +0000 http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/?p=6230#comment-204417 well said ;-)

]]> By: Fungai Machirori http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/marriage-in-the-21st-century-is-not-what-it-used-to-be/#comment-204391 Fungai Machirori Wed, 22 Jun 2011 14:50:41 +0000 http://www.kubatanablogs.net/kubatana/?p=6230#comment-204391 Thanks Upenyu. You write, “Before feminism made a home in Africa and the advent of industrialisation,..” – I am a bit baffled by this as it seems to imply that feminism is a western import. I hope you do not subscribe to the view that just because western feminism is classified into waves that the whole world has been forced to comply with, feminism itself is a western concept that we have just adopted. I would beg to differ because I am sure that feminism has always existed in our various cultures, just by other names. What then would we say of the efforts of the likes of Mbuya Nehanda and other matriarchs the world over?

But onto marriage. Single and 27, yes that’s me. And I completely agree that many women are choosing the single life and independence over being married. But marriage is not just about obligation to society or to a man or to any of those things that we now look dimly at marriage for. Marriage, when right, is about two people making a pledge to be together as long as they both live. It’s the greatest social contract that any two people can enter into; the biggest challenge yes, but when it’s right it’s worth the hard work.

I don’t want to naysay marriage or look at it as an economic formula where marriage = security or social acceptance all the time. The reality is that many marriages are like that. But what’s great about being enlightened and allowed to make decisions at one’s own time is that if, or when, one chooses to get hitched, one knows completely why they are entering the game.

And that leaves marriage where it ought to be.

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